Does Transformation Have To Be Difficult?

During a recent presentation to the L.A. Chapter of the International Coach Federation, a coach questioned whether transformation could be as quick and efficient as I claimed.  “I’ve tried other techniques,” she said, “but the only thing that’s worked is long-term therapy.”   Although I’m a fan of psychotherapy (having studied it since college), I had to take exception to her assumption.

“Because our beliefs create our reality, if you believe that transformation takes a lot of time, you will have the experience of transformation taking a lot of time.  If, on the other hand, you eliminated that belief, and replaced it with the belief, “Transformation takes no time,” you would experience something quite different.”

With many of my clients, the first belief we need to eliminate is “This won’t work for me.”  Once that one is out of the way, it becomes easy — almost effortless — to dis-create the remaining beliefs (and get instantaneous results).

Our beliefs are always verified by our experience.  We seek and find evidence to support every belief we have.  If we have conflicting beliefs (I’m a good person.  I’m a bad person.), we find convincing evidence for both.

The Scientific Method of Inquiry is an attempt to get around this self-verification principal and find out what is “really” going on.  It works to some extent because double-blind studies take most of the bias out of the research findings. But there is clear evidence that scientists usually verify their assumptions.   The so-called “placebo effect” works — and works well — because patients believe that the “medicine” they are receiving will help or heal them.  Instead of discounting the process as “just” the placebo effect, we should be investigating the powerful role of beliefs in healing.

Doubts are simply a special category of beliefs, a sort of bet on a negative future.  “I doubt whether I will win” is a preparation for the expectation (belief) that you will lose, and an attempt to avoid disappointment.  Get underneath the doubt, and you’ll find a negative belief there every time.

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Six Impossible Things

Alice claimed that she sometimes believed six impossible things before breakfast. By doing so, she had great adventures, far beyond the limitations and possibilities set out for her by other people’s beliefs.

In Tim Burton’s fantastic new film, Alice in Wonderland, Alice is portrayed as a ingénue who is caught between two worlds: the staid expectations and beliefs of her Victorian era social structure (as lived and endorsed by her family), and the world of the possible, as taught and demonstrated by her late father, a man with visions of grandeur and adventure in far-off lands.

Like Alice, we have the same tug-of-war inside of us. Our biology drives us in two directions at once: toward the secure, same, and known on the one hand, and toward the new, the novel, and the unknown on the other. We live inside this tension, and we make our lives work – or not – by dealing with these opposite urges within us.

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  1. Auriana says:

    Loved this analogy. Makes me believe in my impossible dream!

  2. JudeEastman says:

    I am seen as “uniquely enough & more” by myself and others.
    I radiate proportion and health easily now.
    I am efficient, focused and motivated in all that I do.
    Attracting men who are aligned with my values & receiving love is effortless .
    Meeting new people and enlarging my social circle happens naturally.
    Clients who are looking to find their inner wisdom, stand in their own light, and love “what is” find and hire me in complete abundance.

  3. Lion says:

    Excellent choices! Have you noticed any counter-beliefs that come up when you say these to yourself? If so, use the BeliefCloset Process to delete them, one by one. Then, re-install your new beliefs in the open space. You’ll find that they “create” those realities easily. Whenever you encounter a negative or counter-belief during the course of your day, just take it into your belief closet and eliminate it. Soon, nothing will be in your way. Warm wishes! – Lion

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Why Not Eliminate All Beliefs?

I am often asked, “Why not just eliminate all your beliefs? Isn’t that the point of enlightenment?”

It is possible to eliminate all of your beliefs with The BeliefCloset Process. It would take some time, because you have accumulated tens of thousands of beliefs in your lifetime.

Consider language, for example:  the word “cat” is actually a belief.  It categorizes (no pun intended) animals into two groups: “cats” and “not-cats.”  This is a useful distinction, especially if you own pets or if you feed animals at the zoo.

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Truth or New Age Fiction?

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” — Napoleon Hill


Napoleon Hill (1883-1970) wrote this famous line in 1937 in his classic book, Think and Grow Rich.  Hill drew on stories of Andrew Carnegie, Thomas Edison, Henry Ford, and other millionaires of his generation to illustrate his principles called the “Law of Success.” It was the first book to ask, “What makes a winner?” But of course, a “winner” requires a game to win.  The game that Hill reports on (and is a cheerleader for) is the capitalist game of materialism and imperialism, the acquisition of more regardless of its effect on others.  By making these men paragons of modern virtues, he granted permission for an “ego takes all” approach to life. This has resulted in great harm to much of humanity and the ecology of the planet.

But is his quote true?  Yes and no. Truth is not an axe that divides the world into True or False.  It is a scalpel that, used skillfully, can heal and educate.  So what is true about this quote?  And what is not?

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  1. Xsparry says:

    Is it true that our beliefs create our experience of reality – yes and no. Your beliefs can take you on a path of rightiousness that is in perfect dischord or accord with your personality differentials. Belief does have the ability to create reality and this doesn’t mean that your hypothalmus agrees with it. For whose reality is being played out and why the act? Culture influences belief and Napoleon Hill reflected the cultural environment of his particular realitivity in time. Yes his quote is his truth. Yes the lenses of belief do colour the world we live in. “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve?” Yes and no. Adaptation is a a key. Did man truely walk on the moon or do we simply believe it or not believe it or am I truely achieving my conception of life or am I simply believing that the life I have is the conception. Do I have control over either of these statements, yes I guess I do. I can say it or not say it . I can think it and not say it. I may even have the opportunity of not thinking anything. Where would not thinking anything leave the mind of man? I think if the referral about achievement is linked to the accumulation of material wealth, my understanding is that conception has to adapt to cultural expectations. Why? acceptance of the economic environment equates to acceptance of the validity of others who you need to help you achieve the wealth you so desire. This validity may or may not equate to who you truly are deep inside. My experience tells me that to achieve personal fulfillment it is not so much belief that needs to be explored, but feeling. Yes I think people do have conflicting beliefs and I think that inner conflict is one of the worst, if not the worst, feeling in the whole world. How to erase inner conflict? I guess its all in the doing. Thankyou for sharing your thoughts with the world. They are of value and I guess its time for me to get on with my own work now. I have enjoyed sharing your perspective of the world. It is of value and your experience matters.

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